If I am being abused

• You are not the only one. 1 in 10 female high school students are abused by their boyfriends
• If your boyfriend has slapped, pushed or threatened you, it's important to take it seriously, whether you've been injured or not. It means he's willing to use physical force to control you and it might get worse.
• You are not to blame. You don't deserve the abuse.
• Leave the relationship. Talk to someone you trust.

Who can I call for help?

• Domestic Violence Program
• Brantford General 751-5544 ext. 4449
• Brantford Children's Aid Society 753-8681
• Victim Services 753-3140
• Brantford Police 756-7050
• Brant County OPP 442-2241
• Six Nation Police 445-2811

What Can I Do To Help My Teen Friend?

1. If you think your friend is being abused, ask them. They may be too humiliated and embarrassed to tell you if you don't ask.
2. Dating violence can take many forms – emotional, physical and sexual. Be open and believe them when they tell you their story.
3. Tell them they do not deserve to be hurt. It doesn't matter what the argument was about.
4. Physical safety is the first priority. Physical assaults usually get worse as time goes on. Ignoring a beating is dangerous. Explain this to your friend.
5. Listen to your friend. Find a quiet place where you won't be interrupted.
6. Tell them that they are not alone in their predicament. Assault happens in all social classes, in all religions and ethnic groups.
7. Let your friend talk about the caring aspect of the relationship as well; don't try to diminish their feelings about their partner.
8. If they are not ready at this point to make major changes in their life, do not take away your friendship. Your support may be what will make it possible for your friend to act at a future date.
9. Promise your friend that you will not tell anyone unless they are in danger. Some teens are afraid that the entire school will find out. Encourage your friend to tell a parent or trusted adult, or to contact support services in your community.
10. Your friend needs your moral support; they need your reassurance that they are NOT to blame. Help them to find the assistance they need to live free from dating violence.

Although the majority of assaults happen to women, if a male is being abused it is just as important that they seek support.